In the most severe illnesses, the strongest remedies are also needed, precisely applied.(Hippocrates)
Pain is something that everyone knows. Pain is different: physical and internal or mental (in psychology, such pain is called psychalgia). Any pain is heaviness, torment, suffering. We perceive pain as cruel punishment, injustice, evil... This is what we want to stop.
So how can we stop it?
How to deal with pain?
First, let's acknowledge that pain is not evil. Pain is our last resort to make us take care of ourselves. We would not have survived to this day if there was no pain.
If there was no pain, then we would not feel the destruction of the tooth, and then we would lose all the teeth.
If there was no pain, then no one would have thought to treat bruises, fractures, internal diseases. And this means that we would only live to see the first serious illness. Without feeling pain, we would not understand that something is wrong with our body, we would not go to specialists for help.
Pain is our most faithful assistant, which protects our life, our well-being. Pain warns us of the worst by drawing our attention to what is wrong with us and demanding that we fix it.
How to respond to pain?
What would you say if you saw such a picture ... A person who has bought a new expensive car equipped with a good alarm wakes up at night because the alarm is yelling at the whole yard. Without finding out the reason, he begins to scold the alarm. In his opinion, the alarm is to blame, which does not allow him to sleep. Not the thieves who climb into the car, not himself, out of laziness not wanting to go out to look or call the police, but the alarm! Of course, we would consider such a person not particularly smart (to say the least).
Or another situation... A person suffers pain, despite the fact that everyone around him is advised to urgently see a doctor. He himself believes that only pain prevents him. At first he tolerates it, then tries to drown it out with painkillers. The pain continues to intensify, but in the end it turns out that if he had immediately turned, the doctor would have helped him to do without serious consequences for the body. Now the negative consequences are evident. Is this person smart?
Oh, how we ourselves are like these characters when we suffer from mental pain! Unfortunately, we often do not want to see the causes of our mental pain. For some reason, we stupidly endure, suffer, suffer, reach despair (up to suicide), try to drown out the pain in various ways, try to fight it, forget, but ... we don’t hear its signal, we don’t correct its cause.
People whose heartache is so great that they want to free themselves from that pain by committing suicide are like those who struggle with alarms and fuses rather than the real cause. They believe that one can be freed from mental pain if the body is destroyed. So it's not the body that hurts! It's the same as if a person has a stomach ulcer, and he tries to cure it by amputating his leg! ..
So what's wrong when the soul hurts?
A normal person understands that it is not the pain itself that prevents us from living, but the reason that causes this pain. Therefore, when something hurts in our body, we try to understand the localization of the pain and find its cause. If there is hope that the cause can correct itself, we wait, endure, taking painkillers, and if we understand that the cause remains and the pain does not go away, then we go to the doctor, undergo a diagnostic study, and with the help of an appropriate specialist we correct this cause. If the kidney hurts - we go to the urologist, if the throat hurts - to the otolaryngologist, if the stomach hurts - to the gastroenterologist, if the heart hurts - to the cardiologist. And who to turn to if the soul hurts?
When the body hurts, we understand that from the nerve endings at the point of localization of the disease, a signal of trouble comes to the corresponding part of the brain.
Where does the signal come from and where does it come from in case of mental pain? Have you ever thought about it?
Not? And why? This is something to think about…
Maybe the signal comes to the brain in an unknown way? Maybe it comes to the heart, because sometimes it hurts from excitement? Maybe the solar plexus is the focus of spiritual pain?
Alas. Science decisively and unequivocally asserts that human consciousness is not localized in the body. That is, no bundle of nerve cells, even the brain, can and does not perform the function of what we call human consciousness. In the near future, our article on this topic will be posted on the site with links to many authoritative sources of high and impartial science.
Therefore, if you are a purely materialist and completely deny the existence of the soul, the invisible world and everything connected with it, we can please you: it means that nothing hurts you. Because according to science, there is no consciousness in the material body, and therefore there can be no mental pain. Therefore, you can immediately begin to rejoice - just as materially as you suffer - and finish reading this article.
Psychology - a science whose very name contains the recognition of the existence of the soul (psyche - soul, logos - to know) - lost a lot when it abandoned the very concept of the soul. That is, it sets as its task to treat the soul, which it has ceased to recognize, but has not introduced any other reasonable understanding of the soul. The situation is simply absurd. How can you treat an organ if you do not recognize it and know nothing about it? Therefore, traditional psychology in the case of mental pain almost always throws up its hands. With the help of modern pharmacological preparations, it is possible to weaken the intensity of the pain of the soul, with the help of psychotherapeutic techniques to distract from the pain, learn to live with it, even drown out this pain for a certain time, but despite the vast experience accumulated over a century and a half, modern psychology is not able to influence the eradication cause of this intense pain.
Why does the soul hurt? (Let's say right away that we do not consider cases of severe mental illness - schizophrenia, etc. - which occur in suicides in about 20% of cases.)
As the body hurts from the fact that we damage it with something or do not give it what it needs, so does the soul. What does the soul need?
One of the contemporary priests writes:
“It is well known that ignoring the deep aspirations of the human spirit gives rise to the very distortion of human nature, which is traditionally called sin - the source of disease. Therefore, the most important thing for a sick person is reconciliation with God, the restoration of trampled or lost manifestations of the human spirit. Reconciliation with God is repentance, it is the awareness of one's sin, the awareness of responsibility for one's life, for the state into which a person has driven himself and the desire, the thirst to start a new life, reconciled with God and asking His forgiveness.
The Church has always associated disease with the internal state of man, with human sin since ancient times. Therefore, the basis of the Church Sacrament of Unction for the healing of the sick is a prayer for the forgiveness of sins. And regardless of whether we resort to the Sacrament of Unction, or we are going to be treated, the first thing we must start with is awareness of our responsibility, awareness of our sin and God's will for you to be healthy.
Sin is not a fashionable word. Perhaps because people who are far from the Church understand it as a violation of some rules, the observance of which is necessary from us to God, and not at all to ourselves. After all, the motto of modernity is "take everything from life." And here, for some reason, they demand something from us. Of course we don't like it...
In fact, sin is a crime against one's own soul. Compared to the body, it's like not feeding your body, how to cut it with a knife, hammer nails into it, pour acid on it. God in this case is like a kind doctor who stands nearby, with medical instruments and preparations at the ready, and asks us to quickly stop self-torture and come to him so that he can cure us.
If you observe yourself, each person can notice how unpleasant it becomes in his soul when he does something bad. For example, he gets angry with someone, gets scared, upsets someone, takes a bribe, does not give someone what he asks, or cheats on his wife. As such deeds accumulate, the soul becomes heavier and heavier. And we forget what real, pure, childish joy is. We are trying to replace joy with primitive pleasures. But they do not please, but only stupefy. And the soul dries up and hurts more and more ...
And when some important event happens in our life - for example, some kind of big loss, it doesn’t even occur to us that the huge pain that has fallen on us is somehow connected with our mistakes. But that's just the way it is. The pain in various crises of human relations is caused by our vindictiveness, or hatred, or vanity. The pain at the break of a love relationship would be many times less if the relationship itself was not overshadowed by resentment and selfishness. The pain at the death of a loved one is exacerbated by grumbling against God. Etc.
The conclusion is as follows: mental pain signals to us that something is wrong with the soul, perhaps we have wounded our soul somewhere and must correct ourselves.
Where is the pain of the soul treated?
If we have never taken care of our soul, believing that the spiritual life consists in visiting theaters and reading novels, then we need help in treating mental pain, we cannot cope on our own.
Where to run when the soul hurts? Where to go for help?
Of course, it is better to go to a place where they will definitely cure you. It should be a place that has a proven tradition of treatment, tools and conditions for treatment, and most importantly, millions of cured patients.
In fact, we have already named the main and only Doctor of mental pain above. I have seen hundreds of people healed of heartache. And all of them were completely cured in only one place and only at the only Doctor. This hospital is the Church, and the Chief Physician in it is the Lord God!
This Doctor, who does not treat for money, He does it disinterestedly and with great love. This Doctor is waiting for the one who feels bad, because He is always ready to lend His helping hand. He doesn't have weekends or lunch breaks. He is always ready to start healing your soul.
This Doctor treats not with counterfeit, but with eternally alive, proven and very effective medicines. He never refused to help anyone, but He will not impose himself on you, He will not persuade you to be treated by Him, because this Doctor respects your freedom and choice, and he does not need advertising. This Doctor just sincerely wants to help you because he loves you. He is counting on your trust in Him and your fulfillment of His instructions.
If you do not yet have enough trust and therefore you are still afraid to turn to Him, remember that you are not risking anything. You can commit suicide even after a year of spiritual life. After all, you still have nothing to lose.
How does God heal emotional pain?
We have already found out that pain is caused by violations of the needs of the soul. So, it is necessary to treat this pain by satisfying these needs.
Do not believe that the lists of human needs that have been widely distributed, practically canonized by populist psychologists (the most famous of them is Maslow's pyramid), including self-realization, recognition, social status, communication, affection, are really what a person needs. Even if you get 100 out of 100 on this list, you won't be happy. Because happy is the one who satisfies the needs of the soul. And they differ from the mentioned list.
The main and only need of the soul is, in fact, love. And God is love. Drawing closer to God increases love. Departure from God through sins - reduces love, increases mental pain.
So, the soul needs not some trifles. She needs God Himself. Only He can satisfy her needs.
And He is ready to give Himself to us. He wants to give himself to us and through this to save us from pain and enlighten our souls with love.
Prayer is compared to the breath of the soul or food for the soul. Those who have prayed have experienced the correctness of these comparisons for themselves. Science has not been able to feel, to measure the substance that enters the soul during prayer. The Church calls this substance grace. Prayer is the fastest healer of heartache.
No less necessary source of grace for a person is the communion of the body and blood of Christ. This article is not theological. We only want to show you the only true way to heal the soul from its pain. Therefore, regarding the great miracle of communion, we will only say that the fruits of this miracle are undeniable and tangible. Many people I know got rid of the most severe psychological disorders, body diseases, despair, depression after communion, and once, almost in front of my eyes, a woman recovered from melanoma (a very aggressive malignant tumor). Communion is preceded by the healing sacrament of repentance - confession. During confession, a person is forgiven for all their confessed sins. From his soul, as it were, all those nails that he plunged into it are taken out, all the wounds inflicted on him are healed. The conscience of a person becomes pure. Do you still remember how good it is in the soul when the conscience is clear?
You can be satisfied with the short-term effect, the safe experience of a certain crisis. But then a new crisis will soon come. Perhaps harder than before. If you do not want to experience pain, if you want to live in love and joy, you need to take care of the soul constantly.
You need to train yourself to give the soul what it needs and not to do what hurts it. To do this, you need to change your habits.
This is a long process that requires constant attention and effort. But as you, with the help of the Doctor, find your mistakes and correct them in the depths of your soul, the heaviness will leave you, a feeling of true joy will fill your soul.
The main work will be done not by you, but by this omniscient, loving Physician, underestimated by us. All you have to do is accept this wonderful gift of healing.
If you want to be physically healthy, you must follow the rules of hygiene. If you want to be mentally healthy, then here you also need to observe your hygiene standards). As Professor Zurab Kekelidze, Deputy Director of the State Scientific Center for Social and Forensic Psychiatry named after V.P. Serbsky, said about this: “There is such a thing as mental hygiene. Don't do things that harm your mental health! Read the ten commandments - everything is written there! We don’t know the laws, we do a lot of stupid things.”
This is evidenced by the experience of generations that lived before us. They understood it well, saw it, felt the results, passed it on to their children.
And do not scold the pain, do not complain about it, do not suffer, but go to treat it.
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So, man was created from the dust of the earth - a material substrate into which the Almighty “blew the breath of life”. Something intangible and therefore, obviously, unknowable, as they say, "by touch". But she, the soul, exists in sensations, manifesting itself in a property of character (from the Greek character - a distinctive feature, sign), unlike any other, like a person’s appearance .. All personality traits are hidden in it: from temperament, to thinking and behavior (however, and animals too). An ancient philosopher (3rd century BC) believed that the soul is the expedient principle of the body, inseparable from it. Descartes (16th century) divided soul and body, implying a complex relationship between them. In modern European philosophy, the term " soul", refers to the inner world of man. She, the soul, determines the individual traits of temperament, psychological characteristics and capabilities. This was quite accurately formulated by an ancient physician and philosopher who lived two and a half thousand years ago -. He believed that the type of temperament depends on the predominance of one of the four fluids in the body and determined their name: blood - sanguine, lymph - phlegmatic, yellow bile - choleric, black bile - melancholic. We must pay tribute to the great, in that the names, as well as their essence (except for the role of “fluids”), have survived to our time, especially since they coincide with the main types of human nervous activity discovered by the great physiologist I.P. .
What is the difference between these four main types of temperament?
Choleric - characterized by the strength of temperament, activity, mobility and excitability of nervous processes, combined with a weakened control of emotions, and therefore frequent emotional breakdowns.
Sanguine - similar in temperament to choleric, but more balanced, as it has increased self-control. At the same time, he is impressionable, proactive, mobile.
The phlegmatic is also a strong type. It differs from a sanguine person by less activity, inactivity, inertia, inhibition of reactions.
Melancholic is a weak type. Inactive, with delayed excitability, with difficulty mastering tasks of medium complexity, falling into a different degree of stupor. Passive, while extremely sensitive and emotionally unstable. A person with a vulnerable, subtle mental organization who lacks willpower.
In real life, so to speak, "in its pure form", they practically do not occur. Usually we all have a mixed type of temperament, with a distinct predominance of one of them. Please note that the fourth type of temperament is designated as " melancholic". It is he who, in the future, will go through the centuries with a diagnosis of the state of mind of many people - a state on the verge of a disease called melancholy. Modern encyclopedic dictionaries define this word as "an outdated name for depression". This is not true - in our time they are far from equivalent.
Depression, as a special form of the disease among melancholics, was first identified by the largest founder of modern psychiatry, the German physician Emil Kraepelin (1856-1926). The Latin word depression - in translation, means "suppression (mood) or melancholy." Suppression of mood, emotions, mental abilities. It quickly supplanted the definition of "melancholy" as a disease and came into fashion only in the first quarter of the last century, as a characteristic of the state of mind, "its languor" and even lifestyle. Remember at least songs with "melancholic, lyrical languor of voluptuousness." Now the meaning of this word has returned to the Hippocratic definition of human temperament, but not the disease.
Here it is necessary to make a reservation that it is the type of a person’s temperament, as we say, that “colors” not only the individual characteristics of personality psychology, but also the clinical features of depression in the most diverse forms of manifestations of this suffering. And temperaments, as mentioned above, are not only different for everyone, but also largely mixed, with varying degrees of predominance of one of the four above. Yes, and the signs of depression in their manifestations are also always comparable to the characteristics of a person’s character.
Each of us is far from constancy in our moods and experiences. Any change in the situation can affect them in one direction or another. Everyone knows this from their own experience. And, if not by one's own, then, as they say, to an "outsider" - it is not for nothing that they say: "you know better from the side." Which of the people has not been visited by gloomy thoughts, sadness, frustration, depression, experiences associated with a changing life situation. Or, sometimes, suddenly, for some unknown reason, the blues come. And all these unpleasant sensations, their degree and severity, are transformed in everyone
differently, depending on the nature and temperament of the person.
In this article, we will not talk about “mental illnesses” - mental illnesses that were called so in ancient times, i.e. related to psychiatry today. And about the various diseases of the soul itself, united by all the well-known diagnosis - depression. In our time, this is the most common disease, the diagnostic scope of which is almost unlimited, as well as the monotonous methods of therapy.
Illness comes from the word pain. But physiological pain is characteristic only of material substrates - any organs and tissues of our body. And although we do not rarely say "the soul hurts" - this is also pain, but not physical, but mental. Therefore, in the future, we will not talk about “mental illnesses”, in the ancient sense of the word, but about the diseases of the soul itself, which in our time, for all their diversity, are united in a single concept “ depression».
It is this “immaterial” soul that is characterized by all the variety of thinking, emotional and psychological states. And not only people, as many people imagine. In my opinion, it is necessary to know about this, as well as about the fact that in nature there are equally universal mechanisms of self-regulation that balance emotions and, consequently, the state of mind.
In my view, like most European doctors, depression is never an independent disease. I don't see it as a disease, but as a condition. State of soul . Moreover - this has long been known - characteristic not only of man, but also, practically, of any soul, as they say, “from the creation of the World”. As one of the states inherent in all living things: joy, pleasure, satisfaction, dissatisfaction, disappointment, chagrin, melancholy, etc. The range of these sufferings is extremely wide and many-sided, as well as the degree of depressive states. Sometimes, many of them can hardly be called depressions.
It is clear that any of our emotions are a manifestation of the state of the soul: both their severity and duration. It is impossible to treat a "non-existent" soul, as you understand. But what is possible? To create more favorable conditions for Her, dependent on the whole organism. These are the basic principles of treatment, or rather the correction of the state of mind.
Temperaments, as the characters and emotions corresponding to them, are characteristic of all life on our sinful planet, including depression. As an example, I will cite The Daily Telegraph report of September 28, 2001, that after the tragedy of September 11, “New York rescue dogs began to experience depression ...”. This was because they lost their search motivation. They have already found thousands of corpses and body parts, but no one survived under the rubble. At the beginning they worked with enthusiasm and when they found living people, the dogs rushed to the rubble.” That is why, after disappointment, the “search engines” became lethargic, indifferent, apathetic, sometimes they refused not only to search, but also to eat. The disappointments that befell them, due to the failure and futility of further work, became the main causes of depression. Exactly the same motivated depressive reaction occurs in cats and many other animals, even elephants, in particular, frustrated by failures in mating games, poor performance in search of food, and often for other reasons. I am reminded of charming creatures - small Siberian chipmunks. If a chipmunk is repeatedly robbed of the food he has collected for the winter, the creature, disappointed by the unfavorable prospects for later life, commits suicide by hanging itself on the fork of a tree knot. I thought at first that it was a beautiful legend. But the Siberian hunters unconditionally confirmed this fact. At the same time, apparently, physiologically, depression, at some stage, can play a certain protective role.
So, depression in the living world is a universal phenomenon. But in humans, it is distinguished by an endless variety of manifestations and motivations (causality), not to mention the severity and diversity of manifestations. This is primarily due to the fact that, unlike animals, a person is not only involved in the social environment and depends on it, but, first of all, has abstract thinking. No one doubts that all this is due to the individual characteristics of the reactivity of the nervous system. The material substratum of these changes, as well as of the psyche in general, has not yet been found. In the same way as for almost a hundred and fifty years, scientists have practically not been able to reliably establish the nature of almost all primary mental illnesses. And, obviously, the Russian authors of one of the first medical manuals published in the first half of the nineteenth century were right, naming the chapter on mental disorders, different from all other sections of the manual, which described various diseases - “Mental suffering”, including melancholy - “suffering of the soul itself ".
The range of these sufferings is extremely wide and many faces, as well as the degree of depressive states Sometimes, many of them, and the language will not turn out to be called depressions. However, here, in America, I happened to observe how almost any deepening inner dissatisfaction, bad, decadent mood, pessimism, sudden spleen, appearing, for some reason, melancholy or even a neurosis disease - all this is often regarded by a doctor unambiguously as manifestations of various kinds of depression. expressiveness. And, of course, it is treated with medication. To make it clear to the reader what a depressive state is, I will give a rather expressive example from my practice.
It happened in distant now Moscow. Her mother brought her to the appointment. A young woman in her thirties, badly combed, unkemptly dressed. She, with her head downcast, walked into the office and sat down in the first place that turned up. Then, after my request, with the same indifference, she moved opposite. Not the first freshness, she wiped her nose with a handkerchief and put it behind the lapel of her blouse sleeve. Looking askance at her, her mother explained: “Here, finally, she brought her. I don't really know what to do with her. She was always cheerful, joyful, she graduated from the institute well, worked, even defended her dissertation. There were almost no friends. But there are always a lot of men around. But none of them gave preference. Then she got married and divorced a year later. She said that they did not agree on the characters. Although her character, according to her mother, was rather easy, sometimes “melancholy” suddenly attacked. During these periods, she did not want to see anyone, closed herself. Most often this coincided with the period of the onset of menstruation. She refused to go to the doctors. And recently, after the boss made some remark to her, she became completely uneasy, did not go to work, indifference to everything appeared, she stopped looking after herself, most of the time she sits silently. Will do anything if you just ask a couple of times. How many times I asked: “What is happening to you?”, She answered that her head hurts. Offered her medicine, but she refused. Kind people advised to contact you
At first glance, it became clear that the patient was in a state of severe depression. And yet, at first, I decided to examine her, and ask in more detail later. As expected, no pathology of the nervous system and internal organs was revealed. After that, it was possible to “talk” her, although it is quite difficult to do this with such people. It turned out that there was no real headache. But the reasons why such a state has come, he simply does not know. There was nothing to be especially offended by the boss for. He had made the same remarks to her before, but nothing of the sort had happened. And here, apparently, reacted inadequately. It suddenly became irrelevant. People annoyed, I wanted to be alone. I didn't even want to move. All the time haunted by causeless "wild longing". I don't want to think about anything. "It's hard to even think." Everything is seen in a gloomy light, it seems unpromising. I began to sleep badly. I completely lost my appetite. Sometimes something unpleasantly squeezes in the chest.
All this had to be pulled out of her, as they say, “pincers”. She answered in a low, monotonous voice, almost in monosyllables. It also turned out that he feels worst of all when he wakes up in the morning, and in the evening it becomes a little easier. But in a dream, nightmares often visit. In general, there was no doubt - our patient has a real depression. So I wrote down in her card "Depressive state in a patient with hormonal imbalance." The latter served as an obvious reason for her psychological reactivity during the period of menstruation, which sometimes got confused in terms.
After appropriate, rather long treatment, she became much better and almost fully recovered. However, in order to prevent such conditions from recurring in the future, he recommended taking some medications, in a short course, mainly before the onset of menstruation and in the first days, since even small hormonal disorders could provoke, unpredictably, some semblance of an experienced state ... Since then a lot of time has passed since then. She didn't have any of those severe depressions. It was extremely rare that there were only very mild, very superficial, short-term episodes, which she dealt with easily and quickly, using the recommended methods and only occasionally, as she put it, "mild emergency drugs." However, who, at times, does not have a bad mood? This is completely normal.
But it also happens differently. Once I was approached by an artist known throughout the country for numerous films. Outwardly, the person is quite calm, one might say peaceful. The age is "middle", about sixty. Slightly mocking himself, he said: “Here, for some reason, he stopped liking his own wife. And this is after so many years of living together ... ”She immediately picked up:“ He himself will not tell anything. We've been together for over thirty years. In the last year and a half suddenly began to change. He is often thoughtful and then almost does not talk, as if withdrawing into himself. Sometimes he forgets certain lines in performances. Because of this, he is nervous. Sometimes, for a few days, he suddenly becomes melancholy sad. Sleeping badly. We went to the doctor - he diagnosed depression, prescribed a medicine, from which he became calmer, but some indifference appeared and he sleeps a lot. Performance got even worse…”
Inspection and conversation took quite a lot of time. It's time to express your opinion. After that, he, somehow dumbfounded, asked: “I have ?! Does it happen to men? Probably, depression is better ... ”I had to explain at length that in men, this is an age-related hormonal restructuring in the body, just as natural as in women, but it proceeds somewhat differently. Stopped all antidepressants. Instead, he prescribed a single hormonal agent in very small doses. Since then, as he later put it: “Thank you doctor, I was being myself again. The wife finally calmed down.
Such a variety of examples you can bring a great many, and they are all different Patients often came confused and depressed, complaining of a violation of their general condition, a decrease in working capacity. Often they noted a change in their attitude to the environment, apathy, indifference, and sometimes a feeling of their own worthlessness and meaninglessness of being. Often visited thoughts of suicide, but it never came to that. It seems to me that these are quite natural states that arise in a situation of some kind of life trouble - for example, an illness or a domestic situation.
Of course, the most severe forms of depressive states often occur in "lucid intervals" in patients with chronic mental and other diseases. For example, schizophrenia, syndrome, involutional psychosis, reactive psychoses, cerebral atherosclerosis, etc. The reactivity of the nervous system is different for all people. In some, the nerves resemble the thinnest strings that react with vibration even to the flight of a mosquito, in others they are like ropes - they do not care about any troubles. Rumor has called such "thick-skinned." There are people who are overly emotional, others are more balanced, others are completely devoid of any emotions whatsoever. And there is no sharp boundary between the types of the nervous system. She is very variable. Therefore, both the causes and the manifestations and severity of changes in the mood and behavior of a person, his inner world and the characteristics of the reaction are so diverse.
Therefore, I would not attribute to depressive states such sensations as - having a basis - melancholy, melancholy, or just a bad mood. These are normal human reactions to certain events and situations, even if they last for some rather long time. They usually go away spontaneously. But there is another category of people who are often referred to as "depressants". I call them "Samoyeds". Throwing an unsuccessful phrase, having an impolite conversation with someone, having committed an unseemly action on their part, etc., they, in the future, experiencing, inflame their inner passions to a tragic degree, falling into an oppressed state, which, at times, is regarded as a manifestation of depression. Such "self-eating" is not a disease, but just an analytical character trait. The whole complex of such suffering is built on resentment towards oneself. Sometimes it is not easy to help in such cases, although the soothing phrase: “Do not be offended by yourself!” very accurately defines the essence of the phenomenon of “self-blame” and its consequences. But depression is not always only a decrease in mood, melancholy, weakness, general lethargy, detachment, a decrease in interest in the environment and professional activities, and increased fatigue. Her frequent companions are fears and despair. Especially in mentally unbalanced people. They may also have such depressive states, which we call agiotized. In such cases, agitated depression is diagnosed. With it, patients experience acute attacks of melancholy, when everything seems the most gloomy and unpromising, when neither sleep nor an attempt to cope with their condition on their own turns out to be untenable, and they begin to blame themselves for everything that happens. Patients rush about without finding a place, groan and sometimes injure themselves. Some of them eventually even commit suicide. This, in the vast majority of cases, is observed only when a depressive state develops against the background of an already existing severe mental illness, aggravating its course.
Sometimes depression is associated with the occurrence of a number of sudden sensations, combined with the appearance of anxiety, melancholy, depression. So, often, one has to observe patients complaining that depression and anxiety accompanying in these cases, they are usually accompanied by sudden palpitations, a sharp increase in heart rate. "The heart begins to flutter like a sheep's tail." Well, this happens often. But our experience shows that depression and its accompanying anxiety are not the root cause of a sudden onset of rapid heartbeat - tachycardia, as doctors call this phenomenon. Rather, everything happens the other way around, because as soon as such a patient is given a drug that relieves tachycardia, anxiety disappears almost simultaneously along with a depressed state. Drugs that act only on the nervous system, in such cases, as a rule, do not give an effect. So, everything here is not so simple, it is also not simple, how to answer the ancient philosophical question: what came into the world first, the egg or the chicken?
We have already said that depression does not appear spontaneously in all cases. This requires not only provoking factors, but also the root cause - from the characteristics of the personality and its emotional sphere, the nature of the person, to the presence and specificity of the development of various somatic or mental illnesses. Many scientists rightly consider the main cause of depressive states to be frequent stresses. But here, too, it all depends on the psychological characteristics of the individual and the individual properties of the endocrine system. The concept of stress was introduced and quickly gained worldwide distribution, relatively recently - in the seventies of the last century, thanks to the research of the brilliant Canadian scientist, Hans Selye. He was the first to define it as a manifestation of the adaptation syndrome, more precisely, the disease of adaptation. And he considered this reaction so natural for any person that he described it as "Spice of life." This is the very necessary “seasoning” that normally trains the adaptive (adaptive) capabilities of the body for various situations. It, in some cases, can provoke painful conditions of varying severity, depending on the individual state of the human nervous and endocrine systems.
The problem of treating depression is very complex and always requires a strictly individual approach. Experience shows that most people, getting into a similar situation, for some reason stubbornly try to avoid medicine. Therefore, most often, you have to deal with neglected cases. This is very disappointing, because. such situations or motivated depressive syndromes, like any other condition or disease, are always much easier to deal with at the very beginning. Moreover, in most cases there is no question of hospitalization. It is necessary only for those patients in whom depression is part of the structure of one or another mental illness, especially in its agitated forms. If depression arose against the background of a somatic (any internal) disease, then in all cases it is necessary to consult a doctor as soon as possible, since this condition may be due to the underlying disease or, often, its exacerbation.
Well, what if something similar to depression visited you, what is called "out of the blue" when there is no other disease? What to do? It is best to try to switch to some other activity to which a person is more inclined, to do urgent homework, to fix something, to wash. Or not very strenuous physical exercises, read a fascinating book. Many are saved by detectives or humor
Let it not seem strange to you, but there is also an ancient psychological technique for overcoming such conditions, which I often recommend. Remember the wisest biblical king Solomon, whose love for ever entered the memory of people in his Song of Songs. King Solomon never parted with his emerald ring, on which it was written: "Everything passes", and according to other sources - "And this will pass." Personally, I like the latter more. And when such patients come, I always advise mentally putting an imaginary ring on your finger and remembering this saying. “And it will pass” - in a difficult situation, remember this more often. So it will be
A very good effect is given by treatment with the use of "soft". The same method is also used in cases where depression is combined with various kinds of sexual disorders (up to impotence) of neurotic origin, sometimes "stuck" for an indefinitely long time. But only a qualified specialist should do this, especially since chronic viral diseases, in particular, or hormonal imbalances, can be the cause of such conditions.
Usually I try not to give specific prescriptions for treatment when it comes to diseases where the prerogative of prescribing drugs is only within the competence of the doctor. In this case, I deviate somewhat from my own principles, since such states occur so often that, in practice, they are characteristic of almost any of us and, often, you can successfully deal with them on your own. In mild cases that are not related to mental illness, you can often help yourself with some advice from doctors of the past, i.e. the time when there was no modern dressing of medicines that can be used only on doctor's orders. In particular, valerian root was widely used, which in our time can be successfully used by brewing one teaspoon per glass of boiling water, always in the evening, covering the glass tightly with something. And the next morning you can use it 1-2 tablespoons, 1-2 times a day. Take motherwort preparations or their combination with valerian, as well as any other mild sedative.
Nice walk outdoors It is especially pleasant to breathe the air filled with ozone after a thunderstorm. Not bad and 1 hour before dinner, take a warm bath, and waking up in the morning - a cool shower. Alcoholic tincture of lemon peel has a good effect. To do this, 50 grams of fresh zest insist on 100 grams of 40% alcohol (vodka). Two days at room temperature and then three days in the refrigerator. Strain through a layered cheesecloth and squeeze out the remaining zest there. Use no more than 35 - 40 drops, 3 - 4 times a day, preferably 10 - 20 minutes before meals. These drops, in addition, definitely increase the sexual capabilities of a person. By the way, it is known that the smell of lemon itself is also uplifting. Therefore, it is worth putting on the table, in the center of the room, an ordinary, not cut, fresh lemon.
And one more piece of advice. If you get up in the morning with difficulty, with a not very good, gloomy mood, this can be easily overcome. Prepare a glass of strong, slightly sweeter than usual black tea in the evening and pour it into a small thermos. As soon as you wake up the next morning, still not getting up, as they say, "having barely opened at least one eye, waking up," before you get up, drink it. Do this "procedure" every day. And you will feel how much easier your life rhythm will be. Somewhat more effective may be a mixture of regular black tea with green tea, in equal proportions. Such tea was specially prepared for Russian cosmonauts.
But the "laughter therapy", which was proposed by Austrian scientists, as a universal remedy for the treatment of depression, releasing a special disc, is a risky business. From my point of view, in severe cases that complicate mental illness, this can only worsen the patient's condition.
Well, if you can’t cope with a depressive state on your own, you must definitely contact a psychologist, psychotherapist or even a psychiatrist. They will be able to choose the necessary medicine from the group of antidepressants. However, the use in such cases of only such drugs, as is practiced here in America, from my point of view, is insufficient and even dangerous, since sometimes it can only aggravate the situation. In his practice, like other Russian and European doctors, at the same time he necessarily included drugs that stimulate the nervous system in the treatment of severe depressive states. Such, for example, as well as a number of others.
When old wounds open and pain gushing like a bucket, when, as in the worst dream, you are suddenly left completely alone and it is not clear who to blame for this .... so that the heart does not harden, and the soul does not dry out, it is important to allow yourself to cry ... Tears will wash the wound. With the deepest love and regret, they will fill it with memories of how you once were and what path you had to go through in order to allow yourself to simply cry in complete safety, sitting serenely on your sofa today. And maybe you were even lucky and there was a friend near you who nods to the beat of your sobs and curses all those who offended you. He probably knows how tears heal, how they burn out everything that gives rise to them: resentment burns with a blue flame in the heart, events are dispelled by ashes in memory, healed by scar tissue of the wound ... And gradually .... over time ... peace and grace will reign in the empty conflagration ...
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To a greater or lesser extent, such sore spots exist in each of us. Because there are no surprises in life. And with many of them it is completely not clear how to cope.
Great nature has laid in our nervous system three standard ways of responding to any physical and psychological danger. Two of them - flight and fight - are quite reasonable and logical. When a person is faced with an incomprehensible or dangerous situation, his body is immediately filled with strength to cope with the circumstances or in some way to avoid them. When, for any of the reasons, it is impossible to dump this energy through action, a person instinctively resorts to the third method - he freezes. All the tension that has arisen in the body remains bound within the nervous system until the very moment when the “danger” has passed. Scientists call this reaction immobilization. Most often, the injury is born in this place. It arises not so much because we freeze, but because we do not die when it is already quite safe to do so.
how to heal psychological trauma
In other words, trauma is the remnants of the accumulated psychological and, accordingly, physical stress, which somehow breaks out and requires a way out. That is why people who have experienced trauma sometimes behave strangely. They keep replaying memories of the trauma in their minds. They literally live in the past, coming up with different real and unreal options for how it could be. They refuse to accept reality. They return to the “scene”. They may even build any new relationship in such a way as to relive the traumatic event. So, a person rejected in love, in a new relationship will not only be afraid of rejection, but will also do everything to ensure that he is rejected again. Psychologists even have a term - “the trauma of the rejected”.
From the point of view of sanity, such behavior seems stupid. Friends, relatives, parents, wives and husbands are advised to immediately begin to behave reasonably. They are unaware that a person, returning physically or emotionally to his trauma, is actually acting intuitively or even instinctively very wisely. He rushes to the place where intense tension was born in order to be able to do what did not work then - to reset, or, in other words, to use up stagnant energy. He just doesn't really understand how to do it right. And in the end, the return leads to repeated heavy feelings and emotions, which only increase the trauma. It seems to be running in a spiral, tightly twisting trauma into the very depths of the human soul.
However, turning this path back, despite all the apparent difficulties, is quite feasible for every person, especially with professional help. You can start with a simple understanding that at the biological level, survival is important for any individual who finds himself in a difficult psychological or physiological situation. This is the oldest instinct, without which people would not exist in this world. It cannot be controlled by even the most enlightened and spiritually developed mind. Survived means won! This is the simple and clear logic of nature and human nature. This is the starting point from which the healing of any injury begins.
So, it's time to take care of your own wounds. Please think about what injury, pain or wound you would like to start healing today…. Now honestly ask yourself:
WHAT AM I DID IT TO SURVIVE?
I always ask this question very first, because in an acute negative state a person tends to see his mistakes and mistakes more. At the same time, he absolutely devalues everything that he has already been able to do to cope with a painful situation. Sometimes, one simple realization: “I did everything I understood and could on that moment' brings tremendous relief.
When you begin to constructively and gradually analyze the situation in which you were hurt so badly, you suddenly notice that you could have acted in many other ways, which, perhaps, would have led to different results or consequences. I carefully ensure that these remarks do not fall as an internal reproach on an already sick heart, but with respect for the lessons that have already been learned through a new, unfortunately sad, experience. What can you do if a person really quickly and effectively learns solely from his suffering. So, it's time to separate the experience you've had from what you've learned from it:
What have I learned from this situation?
What did you understand?
What did I see differently?
How to act correctly, to say what to do if something similar starts happening to me next time?
And only when all your own merits are seen and appreciated, and all the lessons are thoroughly learned, you can go further and ask yourself:
WHAT AM I DID NOT, BUT IT HELPED ME SURVIVE?
This important question can turn your whole life upside down.
One of my raped clients, five years after the horrific event, was still scolding and punishing herself for not resisting, fighting, screaming, or biting. The girl literally brought herself to exhaustion and exhaustion, until she suddenly realized that it was her humility and silence, in the literal sense of the word, that helped her stay alive. The time has come for pure and sincere tears, full of gratitude to yourself. With all these tears flowed away and torment. For the first time in many years, the soul of a very young girl was filled to the brim with peace and quiet.
Almost always, such realizations and understandings alleviate the general condition, but rarely do they heal the trauma itself. It is like an onion that must be carefully peeled layer by layer to get to the core. The first layer is the meaningful integration of traumatic experience into life. The questions that I have shared above will help you with this. It is quite possible to answer them on your own. Now it's time to move on.
For convenience, I will break the technique into several steps:
Step 1: Create an internal trauma map.
At this point, I will ask you to turn to your memory. Recall the very beginning of the situation, which later turned out to be unbearable, difficult and (or) painful for you. If you dare to work on your own, and not with your psychologist or psychotherapist, it is better to take a piece of paper to simply write a detailed story about what happened to you and how in chronological order.
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However, these will not be just memories in the usual sense of the word. I ask you to be very attentive to yourself and note:
- what moments in your description no longer cause any emotions in you;
- at what moments your body reacts sharply with tears, excitement, fear or even anger. It doesn’t matter what the emotion is, even if you can’t name it, but your body responds to the memory with any discomfort, mark it for yourself. It is better to highlight these points with a marker.
As a result, at this step you must see with your own eyes not only at what moment certain emotions appeared, but also what stimulus caused them. It can be anything: someone's word, a smell, a picture in front of your eyes, your own thought.
For example, one of my clients first felt an acute sense of helplessness when, in early childhood, she was tied to a medical chair to cut out her tonsils. This feeling came at the very moment when the doctor tightened the bandages. The feeling of stiffness in her hands haunted her for most of her life. For some, it was just an unpleasant operation, but for my client, it turned into a psychological trauma that was reflected in her entire subsequent life.
By and large, you need to find the very birth of the mental pain that haunts you and determine what exactly served this birth.
Step 2: Search for opportunities and ways to release ALL stuck feelings and states.
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In fact, this stage can take you from several minutes to several weeks. Everything solely depends on your ability to express real experiences in the form of specific actions, deeds, words and emotions. I used the word “real” because sometimes suppressed emotions can transform into other states and feelings that a person notices in himself and focuses on them as negative. So, depression very often (not always!) hides aggression that is not expressed in an acceptable way, which you will not immediately see behind an unhappy and depressed face.
At this stage, we are just going to explore our real initial impulses that are stuck in us. To do this, you again need to return to your memory. At the very beginning of the event, which we have already begun to analyze. And I will ask you to start living this memory in your memory in chronological order, as you did in the first step. However, this time we will slightly correct your memory. Each time you come to the most emotional moments of your difficult event, stop and think:
HOW DO I WANT TO ANSWER? APPLY? DO? REACT?
And only when you decide on the answer, show in your imagination this reaction to the fullest extent possible. In the therapeutic process, I actively connect the body to work. If a person wants to shout, he shouts; if he wants to fight, he fights; to speak out, he speaks out. One rule works here: “how many painful, annoying stimuli have come, so many people must give out responses and reactions to these stimuli.” Pretty meticulous and intense work.
One of my clients was going through a difficult divorce. It's been a little over two years since her marriage broke up, but she seems to be stuck in that time. She lived as if the divorce was still going on.
When we began to work with her, we noticed that she dutifully listened to a lot of negative statements and accusations against her from her husband. Perhaps it was easier for him, but he blamed his wife entirely for the deplorable situation of their family. The rather tortured woman was silent, crying, apologizing, promising to change. However, a huge storm of indignation was seething inside her. In fact, she had something to answer her husband. But the fear of being alone and the hope that everything can be fixed made her keep silent.
First of all, we decided that there really is no chance. More than two years have passed. The divorce took place officially and physically. They no longer live together. He left for another family. So it makes sense to look at what is stuck in her soul and is still inexorably disturbing. At first timidly, then more and more boldly, the great pain of a woman living in deep loneliness in her own family fell out on me in the form of a stream of words. She managed to express and express all reproaches, remarks, hopes, feelings, thoughts. Everything I wanted to say at that moment to my husband. And as soon as the last words disappeared into the air, there was silence. A deep breath and: “Now it seems to me that getting a divorce was the right decision for me in the first place” ... Is it worth noting that a completely different story began next?
I will share with you another therapy, which for me at that time turned out to be one of the most difficult professionally and personally:
A very young young man had a chance to meet the tragic death of a loved one. He bravely endured the news of his death, the funeral and three years of his subsequent life. Friends and relatives admired the endurance of his spirit. He approached me as a specialist in psychosomatics. He was tormented by severe headaches, which over time only intensified even more. Medicines didn't help much.
We began by simply listening to the pain, which, like thunder, with increasing force, dispersed with a characteristic crackle along the entire inner surface of the skull. The pain grew, throbbed and beat. It grew.. pulsated and beat... When you listen to your illness, or rather the feeling that is associated with it, you will certainly come to its beginning, to its peculiar origin on the timeline of our life history. There, in this place, maybe even in a very distant past, something else is happening, something in our inner world has not yet ended, and for some reason we have overlooked it. Illness draws our attention to the past so that we can help resolve what it is time to end.
Very quickly, in one of the first hypnotic sessions, a headache led the young man to the only memory left in his mind of that tragic period of his life. Then, just after the familiar voice on the telephone, talking about the death of the girl, he first felt a sharp blow inside his head. A bright lightning flashed and thundered the thought: “No! That's impossible!" And then the fog ... fragments of thoughts about the need to pull himself together ... And the memory receded, erasing behind it all the feelings and memories that could prevent him from controlling himself. Whenever a person stops the natural physical or mental processes in himself, he pays an exorbitant price with his health and, ultimately, with his life.
Trauma is such a natural process in which a person learns to cope with an unexpected, non-standard and difficult situation for him. My client, in order to look decent, was able to stop the heartache. But even deeply hidden, she found loopholes and manifested itself in the form of a headache.
Three therapy sessions in a row, just one resounding “No!” sounded in my office. He was beaten back by punches against the wall. It poured out with malicious claims to death and hatred for all those who are still so carelessly alive. Literally with vomiting from the inside of the human came a refusal to accept such a blatant, absolutely incomprehensible injustice into his life. This hysteria continued for some time, until at one moment tears splashed ... and exorbitant grief spread like a huge deep ocean before our eyes:
- How can I be now? How can I be now? the man was crying softly...
“To be, my dear, to be ...” echoed in a timid whisper to the beat ...
We worked together for a little over eight months. During this time, the headaches gradually disappeared, reconciling my client with a reality in which, unfortunately, there is a place for real losses.
This step on the path to healing trauma is the most difficult. I don't recommend it to anyone to go it alone. But if you still decide, live your trauma competently in your inner world, adding to your memories all the nuances that I described above. I'm not really asking you to change your memories. But I ask you to supplement them with all those hidden, unmanifested things that were born and took place. You are always bigger, which means stronger.
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My dear reader, sometimes it is not at all easy to live in this wide world. I only wish you never close in yourself, do not despair and do not push away all those who are near, who love and are ready to help. Don't be ashamed or afraid to accept any help from friends and professionals. After all, if you don’t survive your pain today, you risk realizing at the end of your life that you lived only with it, that you ate and savored it all the way! Isn't the price too high? Isn't our life (and the life of those who are connected with us) worth at least a little effort to resolve suffering, heal the heart and ease our soul?!
With deep respect,
Your psychologist Nadezhda Reznikova
Each of us at least once in life faced with such a condition as mental pain. It can occur after the death of a close, dear and beloved person. Also, mental pain visits us when parting or parting with a person who is very dear to us. Mental pain appears when our personal self-consciousness suffers, we feel bad and our mind is looking for some way out of this situation.
What is heartache
Is there an organ in our body called the soul? Any doctor will say no. But why does it hurt then? In fact, mental pain manifests itself in the discomfort of consciousness, in violation of the integral "I". When it is difficult for you, it hurts, you do not want to accept a life situation and put up with it, your soul refutes information from the outside.
With mental pain, the heart contracts, as if in a vise, it becomes difficult for you to breathe, your eyes are clouded, and your thoughts are concentrated on only one situation in your life. Mental pain does not allow a normal life, work, study. With severe mental pain, a person stops any social life, he closes himself within four walls and endlessly thinks, thinks, thinks ... Perhaps he is wondering if everything could have been different, could he have prevented the current situation.
The human soul is like a living being that gets sick during a period of serious emotional upheaval. And this soul, of course, must be treated so that it does not die. After all, if the soul dies, a person becomes cold, indifferent and angry at the whole world. This cannot be allowed.
Causes of mental pain
Mental pain can visit us in different life situations.
- The loss of a loved one causes great emotional pain. At first, a person cannot come to terms with what happened. He denies what happened in every possible way and does not want to accept it. Gradually, his consciousness accepts and puts up with what happened - this is the next stage of experiencing what happened. A person learns to live without the deceased, builds his life without him. All stages of suffering from loss must be gradual and consistent in order for a person to get rid of mental pain in the required time frame.
Usually, grief passes in a year of absence of a loved one and a loved one. After that, there is humility. Even in religion there are rules according to which one cannot cry for a long time for a dead person, because "he becomes ill in the next world." Whether this is true, no one can verify, but long suffering, indeed, will not lead to anything good. - Parting with a loved one. This is also one of the strongest experiences. When a close loved one leaves, the world collapses, as well as all the plans for a life together. It is important not to forget the reason for the breakup. Did he leave you? Then why do you need it? If a person could not consider all your virtues, you should not run after him and humiliate yourself. There will be someone who appreciates you. And if you left him, then do not forget about the reasons why you made such a decision. Every time you think about his “beautiful eyes”, remember why you decided to leave.
- Illness of a family member or friend. It is also quite a strong and painful feeling. Especially when the disease is serious. Mental pain gnaws at any stage of the disease, especially if the child is sick. Parents experience incredible guilt. It seems to them that they could save, secure, notice minor symptoms earlier. The feeling of guilt for neglecting the child gnaws from the inside. In this case, you need to try to pull yourself together, and tell yourself that you are not to blame for anything. It could happen to anyone. And in general, you have every opportunity to return a sick person to his former life. Be strong at least for his sake. And don't stop fighting.
- Betrayal. When a betrayal of a dear and close person occurs, mental pain envelops all the insides. This is very difficult to bear. This is not only about adultery, although this is also, of course, a betrayal of pure water. A close friend or relative can also betray. After betrayal, the main thing is not to get angry at the whole world and not to harden. You need to accept that people are different and you got not the best copy.
- Humiliation. For a person, this feeling is another catalyst for severe mental pain. Children suffer when parents punish them undeservedly and unfairly, a wife suffers from a tyrant husband, subordinates tiptoe in front of a demon boss in fear of losing their jobs. Such destruction of the personality can be found all the time, it has a very strong effect on the psyche. The raped woman experiences the strongest emotional experiences - emotional pain remains with her almost until the end of her life. Getting rid of such an experience is not easy, because each time we scroll through the events of the ill-fated day and remember everything in detail. Any memory is like a knife pierces our heart. In this case, you need to understand that you are not to blame for the current situation, you were just a victim in this case. Find the strength in yourself to accept this case and step over it. Become stronger and prevent what happened later in life.
These are the main, but far from all, reasons why a person may experience mental pain. Anything can happen in life, because life is a series of good and bad moments, and you need to be able to cope with the negative.
- First and foremost. After you have suffered, accepted and experienced the situation, you cannot be left alone with it. You can’t close in on yourself and suffer, suffer, suffer. Your family, friends and relatives should help you with this. They should always occupy you with something interesting, exciting. Try not to sit at home, go out for a walk, just wander around the city. Four walls won't cure your heartache.
- If your pain is mixed with anger, it needs to be poured out. Are you angry at a specific person, situation, life or destiny? Buy a punching bag home and hit it as much as you want. So you can throw out your emotions and experiences.
- Animals are considered the best remedy for mental pain. They are incredibly easy to relieve anxiety, worries, stress. Instead of a melancholy cat, it is better to choose a perky dog that will not leave you sitting still. A trip to the dolphinarium will also be effective. Dolphins have a unique ability to energize and give the desire to live.
- Forgive and ask for forgiveness. If guilt is the cause of your heartache, repent. Ask for forgiveness from the person you offended. Conversely, if you are angry with someone, stop doing it. Mentally release the person and be glad for the situation that has happened. For example, if you were betrayed, understand that it's good that it happened now, and not many years later. If you were offended undeservedly and very strongly - let go and believe that fate will reward the offender according to his deserts and avenge you.
- Get creative. After all, mental pain creates a gap and a void that needs to be filled with something. Drawing, dancing, music, singing, embroidery helps to cope with emotional experiences. You will be able to throw all your pain into this activity and get rid of it forever.
- Constant self-destruction can lead to a real disease of the body. So stop blaming yourself for what happened. Try to get rid of mental pain through physical activity. An excellent choice is running. While running through the alleys, park or forest, you can be alone with yourself, listen to music and finally understand what exactly excites you. Another real way to relieve stress is swimming. The water will take all your worries away with it. Physical activity releases positive hormones that help you deal with emotional stress.
- There is another way to get rid of worries and pain. Write everything that worries you on paper. All your tears, worries, worries - everything that makes you suffer. And then burn your letter and scatter the ashes to the wind. This psychological technique will make you mentally let go of your emotional state.
How to prevent the return of heartache
Some people like to suffer. They have not experienced experiences for a long time, but they are satisfied with the role of the victim. But we know that you are not like that. Therefore, by all means try to get rid of mental pain forever.
Don't make an icon of your loss. If you are faced with such a terrible situation as the death of a loved one, survive it with dignity. In order not to return to the past every time, give away all the things of the deceased, leaving something for yourself as a keepsake. It is not necessary to leave the room in the same form as it was "with him / her." This will make you suffer even more.
If you broke up with your love, you do not need to leave all your joint photos in the room in the most visible place. It brings you back to worries and anxieties, to the days of a past life. If you really want to get rid of heartache, get rid of this pedestal of sacrifice immediately.
Mental pain is characteristic of everyone, because we are living people with our own feelings and emotions. If your soul hurts, then you have it. Do not dwell on your shock, try to move further into the future. Whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger, remember that.
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These words belong to the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates.
In ancient times, the treatment of any disease began with a psychological impact on the patient. None of the doctors violated the principle of treatment that existed at that time: the word - grass - a knife.
With the beginning of the era of drug therapy, the psyche gradually began to fall out of the field of view of medical medicine.
The famous scientist Alfred Kozhinsky wrote:
“We divided medicine into two branches. One, general medicine, dealt with the study of the body (soma), the other with the soul (psyche). As a result, general medicine turned into a noble form of veterinary medicine, psychiatry remained in the field of metaphysics.
Representatives of alternative medicine are aware that it is useless to treat a person's body in isolation from his psyche.
The human brain is a unique creation of Nature. Perception, subconsciousness, consciousness fix what is happening around us. If the information received in the brain corresponds to the life goal, interests, mood and state of the individual, then he is healthy. And he is sick - if everything (or partially) is the other way around. The brain transforms information received from outside and transfers it inside the body.
Through the psyche a person gets sick, through the psyche he can recover.
The best doctor and unique healer are not able to cure the patient if he is psychologically broken. I have tested this both on myself and on very serious patients. Therefore, I never make an attempt to treat the patient, but teach him how to get rid of the disease himself. At first under my control, and then independently. Patients either successfully realize my plans, or ruthlessly destroy them.
The gap between the physical body and its mental state, formed in the system of medical medicine, significantly reduces its authority in conditions when stress has become commonplace. Social upheaval, negative information (evil eye), irritability, depression accompany organic diseases, exacerbate pathologies, and sometimes become the main cause of their occurrence. Official medicine was not ready for a surge of social upheaval in society. The psyche of the patient is still not within the competence of a medical specialist.
Many of the doctors, due to these circumstances, themselves found themselves in difficult situations. Paid medicine, with a low level of treatment, causes irritation in society. Even in the recent past, obedient patients, today, having paid solid money for treatment, turn into objectively demanding patients. They are often dissatisfied with the quality of treatment, high prices for services, facts of tactlessness on the part of the medical staff.
An example from practice.
Natasha P. (23 years old) was found to have cervical erosion of the 2nd degree. They ordered cauterization. The patient heard from her friends that it was not safe for nulliparous women, and told the doctor about it.
“The attitude towards me was terrible. The doctor screamed, threatened that I would soon get cancer, that everything was very bad with me. This had a very strong effect on me. I was in a terrible state for three days. Then the pain in the lower abdomen resumed.
The fact is not simple. The doctor made a professional mistake. With a careless phrase, she introduced a dangerous code into the mind of the patient. With the shattered psyche of the patient, the code could cause an exacerbation of an existing disease, and even cause the appearance of a more dangerous one. A rude doctor quickly loses the qualities of a doctor.
“If after a conversation with a doctor the patient does not feel better, then this is not a doctor,” said the great psychiatrist V. Bekhterev.
In healing, the process of treating a patient is usually accompanied by psycho-correction. The more professional this is done, the less time will be required to treat the patient by other methods. A positive psychological impact opens the patient's energy channels for the perception of other methods of treatment.
The Russian therapist M. Mudrov wrote in the 18th century: “Knowing the mutual actions of the soul and body on each other, I consider it my duty to note that there are mental medicines that heal the body.”
Such medicine is the word (energy-informational influence).
An example from practice.
Patient Svetlana K. (32 years old): “Everything was amazing for me. After your words:
"I relieve inflammation" I felt lightness in these organs. I felt as if the disease was leaving me. The mood was joyful. After the second session, I felt a surge of energy. The pain in the lower abdomen has stopped. I began to control myself when I was nervous. I try to soberly assess the situation, in general, I have become stronger.
Our ancestors knew about the power of psychological influence, and their civilized descendants do not believe that a person has a soul, and therefore there is no medical specialist for its treatment.
Sorry, but it will take a long time to prove to someone in society that the soul (you can call it differently) really exists. There is no point in going into details of what it is. Moreover, the book is not designed for initiation into parapsychology, especially religion. Help the sick first. They, like air, need truthful information about how to get rid of the disease faster, and then how to live properly after recovery.