Of people. work. Partner. Family. Friends. Hobby. Stop worrying about what should make you happier but doesn't. Focus on a positive attitude towards what already brings joy! Happiness is not brought on a silver platter, you can’t take someone else’s, you just need to design your own.
2. Be an example
Mahatma Gandhi said, "Be the change you would like to see in the world." Trite, but true. You can yell at the waiter who mixed up the orders, break loose at the first comer who accidentally stepped on his foot ... Or you can behave exactly the opposite - and impress them much more! Negative emotions take away minutes of life, positive ones add.
3. Take time for yourself
Even if you have a family, work and a lot of everything, it is very important in the daily bustle to find a moment to be alone with yourself. Understand some thoughts, feel your reactions, just sit and think about nothing.
4. Go in for sports
No, it is not necessary to live in the gym, it is enough to do exercises from time to time, run, swim - in general, do what brings you pleasure.
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5. Read books
Despite the fact that the adult brain is not as mobile and able to learn new things as in childhood, it is important to learn something every day. Memory is trained, curious facts get stuck in the brain, and a well-written novel brings a lot of joy.
6. Have sex
For happy life in most cases, healthy intimate relationships are important. It is not necessary to immediately mentally marry the first person you meet, but it is irrational to shy away from men, “because they have one thing on their minds”.
7. Accept change
From a new hobby, with which you have not yet figured out the attitude, to something serious like moving to another city or country. If change is inevitable, what's the point of worrying about it? If you treat them calmly and even joyfully, life will quickly return to normal.
8. Sleep
It sounds funny, but your mood and condition during the day depend on a good sleep. So if you can't get enough sleep on your workdays, don't be ashamed of napping on the weekends or wanting to miss a meeting with friends in order to snuggle up to your pillow.
9. Don't compare yourself to others
Sometimes you want to look at more successful peers and think why you are not among them. But such thoughts do not bring you closer to them, but vice versa! Focus on yourself and what is important for you, and the result will not keep you waiting.
10. Be positive
Behind these in simple words hiding a positive attitude towards life: work, people, events. Meet the new day with a smile, do not expect failure and ridicule, tune in to the best - and everything will be fine.
For a whole year, at the beginning of each month, we published - to acquire and develop skills that will be useful in life. If you've consistently put off our program until later, or just haven't found the time, now is the time to catch up.
A chance to become the best version of yourself in one month.
Let's start the first week. You must take the right course, get yourself in shape and learn how to handle money. Don't worry, it's all real. At least you will be able to take the first steps in the right direction. We will work on ourselves on weekdays, and on weekends we will rest and tune in to future achievements. Shall we start?
Monday. Analyze yourself
It is impossible to achieve impressive results without careful preparation. Set a goal for yourself to be more productive. And the first step that you need to take towards your goal is to ask yourself questions. Imagine that you are looking at yourself from the outside and answer: how satisfied are you with your position? Are you comfortable at work? Are you happy with your financial situation? How are things with personal life? Do you play sports? Are you happy?
The answers to these questions will help you take the first step towards the life you've always dreamed of. Take 40-60 minutes and analyze yourself.
Tuesday. Think of your future
Do you have a purpose in life? Do you know where you are going and what you want to get in a week, a month, a year, five years of your life? It is possible that you find it difficult to answer these questions - there is nothing to worry about. However, it is today that you should think about your future.
Just not as usual - “I want a three-story house, be the director of a beauty salon and live in Hawaii,” but we will focus on our feelings. Isn't that what we're aiming for? To feel happy, energetic, strong, peaceful - to each his own. This is the Danielle Laporte technique (described in more detail) that turns goal setting on its head. Try setting goals in a new way.
Ask yourself:
- What are my true desired feelings?
- What do I want to do, experience, or have in order to experience my true desired feelings?
- What three or four intentions and goals will I focus on this year?
- What will I do this week to experience my true desired feelings and achieve my goals for this month?
Did you formulate answers? Now you have a plan for your life. At least for the coming months. It's time to start executing it, but before that, let's do a few more important things.
Wednesday. Start exercising
If you have health problems, then you will never be able to achieve your goals. So it's time to take care of yourself. And the easiest way to get in shape is to start playing sports. And you don't have to go to the gym. You can do this at home too. Take 15 minutes and do the following set of exercises:
How are you feeling? Are you capable of more? What day is your next workout? Put your workouts on your calendar or you'll keep postponing them.
Thursday. Leave the consumer society
Each of us wants to dress well, eat delicious meals and live in comfortable conditions, but not everyone knows how to handle their finances. And, as a rule, such problems appear because of your internal consumer. It is he who is the main enemy of the wallet.
Research shows that 53% of grocery shopping and 47% of household goods shopping are ad hoc. That is, you could well do without these purchases, but you have already paid for them.
Stop wasting your money recklessly!
And the surest way to save money is to start thinking before you buy and stop impressing others (yes, you have to admit to yourself that sometimes you do). Believe me, others don’t care how modern your smartphone is and which brand you prefer. Proper handling of money is the best indicator of your solvency.
Friday. Learn to rest properly
The life of each of us is full of stress and worries. However, we can set aside 15-20 minutes a day to deal with them through meditation. This magnificent technique will add awareness and concentration to your life, as well as relieve imaginary experiences. Just try to meditate - meditation has been proven.
I have two good news for you and one bad news. I'll start with the bad. You will never be the most beautiful on earth. The slimmest, the brightest, with the shiniest hair... Never. If only because there are 7 billion people on the planet, and about half of them are women. There will always be someone more attractive, smart, charismatic. It's unavoidable.
And now two good ones. First: you can completely free yourself from the need to be yourself. Never again complex, do not doubt yourself and do not torture in order to become “better”. And second, you can be truly happy with what you have. Love yourself as if you are the most beautiful on the planet. And you know what? The rest will count exactly the same.
WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?
When people see some defects in themselves, and even more so - if they constantly seek out and correct them, then they fall into a psychological trap. This usually means that a woman in her chest (nose, eyes, hair, legs - underline as necessary) dislikes herself. It's hard to admit that you don't love yourself in general if you really do. But it is easy to “impose” this feeling on a separate feature, an integral part of your appearance and personality.
Of course, here and parents could contribute. You know that many mothers like to raise their daughters with endless criticism, such as "pick up your stomach", "straighten your back", "why are you sitting like a man?" Still very often they comment on the girl's appearance in a not very flattering way. Instead of “you are my beauty”, they say “but she studies well” or “but Lenka’s daughter is just lovely, not like you ...”
And finally, it happens that the mother (and mothers often see their daughters as their continuation, communicate with them, as with their own reflection in the mirror) suffered from self-doubt. She could not tell you anything, but with all her behavior make it clear that she, mom, is somehow “not like that” with you. Like, “here, daughter, look at my wrinkles”, “oh, to lose weight ...”
The girl soaks it up like a sponge. She sees how her mother treats herself and begins to try on exactly the same attitude. It also happens that mothers evaluate themselves in terms of success with the opposite sex. For example, if a mother is raising her daughter alone, she can share her experiences with her, from the category of “who will marry me” and the like. The daughter sees that in the "adult" world, the abilities, achievements, dignity of a woman are measured solely by external parameters or the ability to please. And growing up, she literally "inherits" it and writes it into her life script.
WHO IS GUILTY?
Many tend to scold glossy magazines for the cult of beauty and youth. As if some individual people, with their creativity, cultivate female complexes, make “mere mortals” feel worse than retouched fashion models. Actually, this is not entirely true. Just a self-confident woman, looking at a stylish beauty from a magazine, is inspired by the ideas of the stylist, emphasizes something for herself. And the insecure one does what she was taught to do from childhood: she compares herself. Moreover, even if she is objectively no worse than a model or actress, it will always seem to her that here in the picture is an ideal, and she is no match for him.
You know, now in the West they like to discuss body positivity or “self-love with any form”: models who are well over 60 or who are overweight come out on the podium ... I think that this, of course, is a great idea to peer into other people's wrinkles and not the thinnest waist, but still
convince yourself that you are ugly and “bad”.
However, there really is no one to blame. And the mother is not to blame that her daughter grew up with such ideas about herself and about beauty. After all, she was almost certainly criticized in childhood and raised insecure. A psychologically mature woman will not blame her mother, she will accept her. After all, on the feeling of “I was cheated and
offended” you won’t go far and you won’t correct your attitude towards yourself.
WHAT TO DO?
Many magazines like to give advice, like "look at yourself in the mirror and say how beautiful you are." Unfortunately, this doesn't always work. You
initially put an equal sign between love and beauty. Like, "beautiful" means "has the right to love herself." And "ugly", what, no such right
It has? Start by loving yourself. After all, as you know, truly love is not for appearance. Accept what you do; reckon with your decisions; forbid yourself to compare yourself with others, in any context - be it a story about appearance, the presence / absence of a husband, career success, etc.
Further.
Love what is already there. What you have done. You don't have to rate yourself at all. No need to praise yourself for some achievements, give gifts "for something
then, ”spoil with a cake for the lost weight. It is not necessary to treat the complexes in the same ways that you acquired them. Do what you love and admire the fact that you choose not social success in the conventional view, but yourself. And learn to already eat what you really want, and not just what is useful. Because from a life postponed "for later" no one has yet lost weight, has not become healthier and stronger. Step by step, go to what makes you really happy. And eventually you will find yourself.
WHO SHOULD I LOVE?
You are what you have. These are your arms and legs, eye color, weight, skin tone. Every bump and roughness that you may not particularly like is your experience. This is the first scar you got when you fell down a hill as a child. This is motherhood if we are talking about stretch marks. These are the prints of the sun when you traveled, tasted new cuisine, admired the scenery. Wrinkles around the mouth and eyes - an endless number of tears and laughter, good films, touching events and moments when emotions could not be restrained. Of course, I have nothing against correcting some serious defects, such as a broken nose in three places or a breast that sags badly after feeding. Although, in my opinion, aerobatics is to see and feel beautiful in any condition.
Ultimately, you know what? And you have no other choice. Even if you redraw absolutely everything in yourself, you will still remain yourself. And no plastic surgeon can inject you with self-love, no matter how hard he tries. So maybe it's better to work on your head, and not on your appearance?
Do you want to change your life for the better? Become more successful, more confident, more sociable? Make dreams come true and find freedom? Then you will definitely need best books in psychology and self-development from this collection.1. Essentialism
This book is about a new approach to business and responsibilities that will make your life easier and you happier.AT modern world In addition to virtual attacks, an incessant stream of work and personal requests, we are faced daily with a choice: which of our hobbies to spend time on, which projects to pursue, where to go to study ...
How to change the rhythm of life, get rid of everything superfluous and find your own way, says writer and business coach Greg McKeon. His advice will be useful to anyone who does not have enough time for the most important things.
2. Be the best version
Anyone can become outstanding, no matter what he does. It's not what you do that matters, but who you are.This conclusion was made by Dan Waldsmith, who studied more than 1000 stories of ordinary people who have achieved success in business, science, politics and sports. It turned out that they all had several common features, which the author talks about.
This book will inspire you to new achievements in work and any other areas of life. You will learn why you are not yet where you want to be and how to fill your life with incredible opportunities.
3. Important years
Someone calls the years from the twentieth to the thirtieth the second youth, someone - the beginning of adulthood. Dr. Mag Jay, a clinical psychologist, claims that this is the most important decade in a person's life.In her opinion, during this period it is worth thinking seriously about work, love, physical and intellectual development. A smart and constructive book about years that should not be wasted.
You are waiting for real stories from life and fresh Scientific research. As well as the observations of psychologists, sociologists, neurologists, economists and top managers involved in personnel policy.
4. Dreaming is not harmful
A bestseller with 35 years of experience on how to make dreams come true. This legendary book will help you discover your strengths and hidden talents, and then chart the path to your goal and realize your plan.Barbara Sher is sure: to become a creator own life easier than it looks. You just have to be bolder: dream, read, do.
The book is really worthy of admiration (no wonder it came out in 1979 and is still popular). It is written to make you a winner. A person who gets what he wants.
5. Development of willpower
A book for those who want to learn self-control and become the master of their own destiny.Renowned American psychologist Walter Mischel talks about how to develop willpower and apply it when faced with everyday challenges: the need to lose excess weight, quit smoking, prepare for layoffs and other important issues.
The publication is included in the top 100 Amazon.com in the "Cognitive Psychology" section.
6. Mindsite
Many people suffer from "mental traps": obsessions, mood swings, anxiety, unpleasant memories. How to get rid of these problems and become happy man?Psychiatrist Daniel Siegel talks about an important skill that can change your life for the better. This skill is the ability to focus on your inner world and abstract from the "autopilot" - ingrained irrational habits.
The real stories from the book prove that we have the power to change ourselves, our brains and our lives.
7. Memory does not change
Neuroscientists say that there is no good or bad, short or long memory. There is memory well or badly trained.“Improving memory is not only possible, it is also interesting,” says psychologist Angels Navarro. You will agree with this statement when you see the fun brain training exercises in this book.
By doing them, you will not only train your memory, but also develop other cognitive abilities, which include attention and thinking.
8. Energy source
This book will help you get rid of overwork and stress. The author, a productivity expert, explains how to stay energized for 15-19 hours of wakefulness and not feel tired.Work days will no longer seem too heavy and busy for you, and in the evenings you will be active enough to take care of personal goals.
A book for everyone who wants to do more at work and find time for family, recreation and hobbies.
9. An easy way to stop procrastinating
This book will be useful to anyone who constantly puts off difficult and unpleasant activities, and then tries to do the impossible in one day.Renowned psychologist Neil Fjork has been procrastinating his clients for 30 years; and he believes that procrastination is a symptom of deeper phenomena, namely loss of motivation and perfectionism.
10. Never Eat Alone
Forbes magazine called the author of this book "one of the most sociable people in the world." And for good reason: Keith Ferration is the No. 1 networker. He, like no one else, knows that the most important skill in business (and not only) is the ability to build relationships.Keith states: "Of course, building an extensive network of connections is not the only thing that is required for success, but if you build your career and life with the support of friends and acquaintances, then this is an undeniable advantage." The book is recommended for reading to anyone who wants to openly and sincerely communicate with people, while building a network of useful contacts.