Good day, readers!
In a previous post, I talked about how I stopped liking myself, that I decided to change. But I didn't give a date. The term for changes is 30 days.
Today, the day I decided to change, I tried to make a plan. I wrote my cons, but when I tried to write a solution to one problem, I realized that it was essentially impossible to solve it. Then I searched the Internet for articles on the topic of changes in myself. And I found what I need. There were 30 tasks in the article, most of them need to be done every day. I took note of 13.
1. Write or tell someone every day what you like about them.
I tried it before, I liked it. I immediately began to see the good in people. Now I hate everyone I see on the street. I even know the reason for this. I began to communicate more often with a person who tells me every day: I met such and such a person today, he is simply terrible! This guy is pissing me off!
2. Talk to a stranger every day
I'm quite shy, it's hard for me to make new acquaintances. This challenge will push me out of my comfort zone. But you need to think about how to talk to strangers
3. Take a photo every day
And this is what I tried. You immediately begin to try to look for inspiration, and then you begin to see it simply in all the things that surround you.
4. Take time to praise yourself.
I do not praise myself, only criticize. This challenge will help me find something good in myself that other people will immediately begin to notice.
5. Read a chapter of a book a day
I love to read, but lately there are few books that interest me, it's time to look for that one.
6. Giving up social media for a month
The original was "no media for a month", but I decided to give up social media. True, I will sometimes have to go to VK, because there my classmates throw off materials for tests and exams. But still, a firm “no” to all social networks, entry only when absolutely necessary.
7. Get inspired every day
I don't even know what inspires me. Today it was communication with my sister, and what can inspire me tomorrow is a big secret.
8. Think about the achievements you want to make in the next 30 years - one year a day
It will be difficult, but it will make you think. I don't even know what I want out of life. And this will be my guide.
9. Practice something every day
I chose twerk. For some reason, he interested me, I'll try to learn how to dance him.
10. Don't lie for a month
Sometimes there are situations in which you have to lie. This challenge to myself will teach me to look for another path. And you don’t have to remember in which situation I lied.
11. Don't complain
Complaining is my weakness. If I stop complaining, I will most likely start to be silent.
12. Meditate daily
Last year I tried meditation, I liked it. I became calmer, better concentrated on things, now it’s hard for me to do one thing (for example, write something, I want to check messages).
13. Do something selflessly daily
I stopped helping people a long time ago if I see that they need something. I am ashamed for that.
This is all I have chosen for myself. Each task is a test for me. It seems to me that my view of the world will change a lot.
How to change your life? Another guide to action to improve your life and put in order not only your thoughts, but also your things. As we know, everything is interconnected: if you lower your head and slouch, you will immediately feel insecure. But it costs you even bad mood raise your head, straighten your shoulders and smile, as everything around changes and you are already the kings of the ball.
"100 Days of Summer" will no longer work, so let's add a small piece of the velvet season there for good measure;)
In order to change your life (and in any direction), you need quite a bit - just start acting. But this "simple" is not always so simple. Sometimes we know what to do, but these actions seem scary to us. And sometimes we do not have a clear plan, nor an understanding of how to draw up this plan. Perhaps these 60 small steps will help you finally start doing something. And even if after 20 steps you realize that this is not your plan, you will already be ready to make your own. own plan. Eyes are afraid, but hands do?
House
1. Create your own “Calendar for cleaning the House of unnecessary things”, distributing the cleaning of various household areas by day.
Day 1: Parsing magazines.
Day 2: Parsing the DVD.
Day 3. Parsing books.
2. Live by the mantra: "There is a place for everything and put everything in its place." Try all 10 days to follow the following 4 rules:
1. If you took something, then put it back in its place.
2. If you open something, close it.
3. If you drop something, pick it up.
4. If you took something off, hang it back.
3. Walk around the house and find 100 things that need to be fixed or tweaked a little. For example, change a light bulb, seal a hole in the wallpaper, screw in a new outlet, etc.
Happiness
4. Follow, finally, the advice that psychologists of all countries and completely different views repeat - write on a piece of paper from 5 to 10 things for which you are grateful in your life every day.
5. Make a list of 20 small things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one of them a day for the next 100 days. For example, eat your lunch on a bench in the park, walk in the park with a dog in the evening, 1 hour of watercolor painting, etc.
6. Keep a diary of your psychological chatter - that is, write down your thoughts and feelings that arose throughout the day. For example, how many times a day have you blamed yourself for something, how critical you are to others, how many times a day you have positive thoughts, etc.
7. For the next 100 days, try to have a good laugh at least once a day.
Study or self-development
8. Choose a difficult book that you still have not dared to read, but wanted to. Read it in 100 days from cover to cover.
9. Learn something new every day. For example, the name of a flower, the capital of a distant country, the name of a dog breed you like, etc. And in the evening you can scroll in your head all the new things that you learned over the past day, get a dictionary and learn a new word.
10. Stop complaining for the next 100 days. Negative thoughts lead to negative results. Every time you feel like complaining, try to stop yourself.
11. Set your alarm a minute earlier each day for 100 days. Try to get up as soon as the alarm goes off, open the windows, do light exercises. After 100 days, you will wake up 1.5 hours earlier without much effort.
12. For the next 100 days, enter " morning pages"- a simple stream of consciousness in the morning, which you will write down in a special notebook. This should be the first thing you do after waking up.
13. For the next 100 days, try to focus your attention on the thoughts, words, and images of who you want to be and what you want to achieve.
Finance
14. Make a budget. Write down every penny you spend in 100 days.
15. Search the Internet for good financial advice and pick 10 of them. Try to follow them for the next 100 days. For example, going to the store with limited cash and no credit card, doing several things in one trip to save on gas, etc.
16. Pay in stores only with paper money and put the remaining change in the piggy bank after purchases. After 100 days, calculate how much you can save.
17. For 100 days, do not buy anything that you do not really need (meaning fairly large purchases). Use this money to pay off a loan (if you have one) or put it in a savings account for six months.
18. For 100 days, dedicate at least 1 hour a day to finding or creating a source of additional income.
Time Management
19. For the next 100 days, carry a notebook with you everywhere. Write down all the ideas and thoughts that come to your mind, make your to-do list, write down new meetings literally on the go right after the calls.
20. Track how you use your time for 5 days. Use the information you've gathered to create your "time budget": the percentage of your total time spent on activities that you do each day. For example, house cleaning, commuting time, vacation time, etc. Make sure you stay within your budget for the next 95 days.
21. Identify a low priority task for yourself that you can not do for 100 days, and replace it with a really important one.
22. Identify 5 ways your time is "leaking" and limit that time to the next 100 days. For example, do not watch TV for more than 1.5 hours, do not spend more than 1.5 hours a day on social networks, etc.
23. For the next 100 days, stop multitasking and do only one important thing a day.
24. For the next 100 days, plan your day from the evening.
25. For the next 100 days, do the most important things on your to-do list first, and then everything else.
26. For the next 14 weeks, review each week. During the weekly survey, answer the following questions:
What have you achieved?
What went wrong?
What did you do right?
27. For the next 100 days, at the end of each day, tidy up your desk, sort out your papers and stationery. So that every morning you will have an order on your desktop.
28. Make a list of all the promises and commitments you've made for the next 100 days, then take out a red pen and cross off the list of anything that won't bring you joy or move you closer to your goals.
29. For the next 100 days, before you switch from one thing to another during the day, ask yourself, is this the best use of your time and resources?
Health
30. Losing about a pound of weight requires burning 3,500 calories. If you reduce your calorie intake every day by 175, then after 100 days you will lose about 2.5 kg.
31. For the next 100 days, eat vegetables 5 times a day.
32. For the next 100 days, eat fruit 3 times a day.
33. Pick one food that consistently disrupts your attempts to eat healthy—whether it's cheesecake from your local bakery, pizza, or your favorite potato chips—and stop eating it for the next 100 days.
34. For the next 100 days, eat from smaller plates to control how much you eat.
35. For the next 100 days, use 100% juice instead of high sugar substitutes.
36. For the next 100 days, drink only water instead of soda.
37. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy breakfasts.
38. Make a list of 20 easy and healthy meals that you can eat for lunch and dinner.
39. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy snacks.
40. Use your healthy meal lists to plan your meals for the week ahead. Eat like this for the next 14 weeks.
41. For the next 100 days, keep a food journal to see if you deviate from your menu.
42. For the next 100 days, spend at least 20 minutes a day exercising.
43. For the next 100 days, always carry a pedometer with you and try to walk 10,000 steps a day.
44. Set up your scales and hang a graph from your bathroom. At the end of each of the 14 weeks, weigh yourself and record your weight loss (gain), changes in waist circumference, etc.
45. For the next 100 days, set your watch or computer to remind you every hour to drink water.
46. For the next 100 days, meditate, breathe, visualize - make it your daily ritual to calm your mind.
Relationship
47. For the next 100 days, find something positive in your partner every day and write it down.
48. For the next 100 days, keep an album of your joint activities, scrapbooking. At the end of your experiment, give your partner the resulting scrapbook and a list of all the positive things you have observed during those 100 days.
49. Determine for yourself 3 actions that you will take every day for the next 100 days to strengthen your relationship. It can be the words "I love you" or hugs every morning.
Social life
50. Chat every day for the next 100 days with someone new. It can be your neighbor with whom you have never communicated before, your comment on a blog where you have never written anything before, a new acquaintance on social networks, etc.
51. For the next 100 days, focus on connecting with people you admire and respect.
52. For the next 100 days, if someone has offended or upset you, think for a minute before responding.
53. For the next 100 days, don't even think about issuing a final verdict before both sides have been heard.
54. For the next 100 days, try to do at least one good deed a day, no matter how small.
55. For the next 100 days, praise everyone who deserves it.
56. Practice active listening for the next 100 days. When the interlocutor speaks, listen to him, and do not rehearse your answer in your head, ask again to make sure you heard everything correctly, etc.
57. Practice empathy for the next 100 days. Before judging someone, try looking at the case from their point of view. Be curious, find out more about the interlocutor (his interests, beliefs, etc.)
58. For the next 100 days, live your life and don't compare yourself to anyone.
59. For the next 100 days, look for good intentions in the actions of those around you.
60. For the next 100 days, constantly remind yourself that everyone is doing the best they can.
"Have you taken up self-development???"
1. Go for a walk and draw or write down everything you find along the road.
2. Write a letter to your future self.
3. Buy something inexpensive that symbolizes your need to create (a new pen, a cup, a large notebook). Use what you buy every day.
4. Draw your lunch.
5. Find a poem to which everything in your soul responds, copy it by hand and paste it into your notebook.
6. Glue an envelope to your notebook and put everything you find on the street in a week.
7. Get to know the work of a new artist, writer, etc. Write about what touches you in his paintings, books, or what he does there.
8. Find a photo of a stranger and write him a short biography.
9. Draw only red objects during the day.
10. Draw your bike.
11. Make a list of everything you will buy next week.
12. Draw a map of the places you have been that day.
13. Draw a map of the lines of your palm.
14. Chalk around your footprints.
15. Record an overheard conversation.
16. Track how the moon moves relative to your house.
17. Go to the paint store and collect samples of your favorite colors.
18. Draw your favorite tree.
19. Take 15 minutes and eat an orange.
20. Write haiku.
21. Hang upside down for five minutes.
22. Hang found objects on a tree (note: “Found objects is such a term in applied arts - Means objects from Everyday life, which are not usually used in art, but are somehow modified and used in collages or decorations. That is, those materials and objects that are not sold as materials for art initially - these can be nuts, plastic pipes, empty bottles, labels, strings, cd boxes, birdhouses. For small things like collages and decorations - small objects, for sculptures there can be large ones like old motors or headboards.")
23. Make a puppet for the puppet theater.
24. Equip a room outside with everything you find in nature.
25. Read a book in one day.
26. Illustrate the list of products you want to buy.
27. Read a story aloud to a friend.
28. Write a letter to someone you respect.
29. Take a close look at the face of the person you DON'T like.
30. Cook breakfast/lunch/dinner in the same color theme.
31. Collect a collection of Very Small Things.
32. List what smells in your area.
33. Write one hundred ways to use a tin can.
34. Fill a whole page of your notebook with small circles, and then color them.
35. Give something you love.
36. Select an object and draw the side of it that you can't see.
37. List all the places you have lived in.
38. Describe your favorite room in detail.
39. Write about your relationship with the washing machine.
40. Draw everything that is in your purse.
41. Make a mini-book on the topic "shopping list".
42. Come up with a character based on a person you know. Describe this character - what he loves, what he doesn't like, what he gets angry at, what he thinks about at night.
43. Think of your favorite childhood game.
44. Stick picture reproductions on the inside of your kitchen cabinet doors so you can see them every day but still notice them.
45. Draw the same object every day for a week.
46. Write in your journal with a pen, ink, charcoal, crayons, markers, etc.
47. Draw some of your favorite clothes.
48. Make a useful item using only paper and tape.
49. Explore in detail a holiday or ritual from another culture.
50. Set up a temporary art installation. Use only sticky notes and a pen.
51. Draw a map of places in the city where you like to sit (you can scan it and give it to a friend).
52. Write down all the sounds you hear within an hour.
53. “you need to draw a certain grid (usually it is three by three squares or rectangles, you can also another one that fits under the page of your art magazine) Then cut out pieces of photos with different textures from magazines (that is, not images, but some homogeneous themes-patterns) and move them, then glue them into this markup grid so that they “play”
54. Give up all media for one day. Write down what came of it.
55. Pencil print six different surfaces.
56. Draw trash.
57. Make a morning collage. (Meaning such a collage, which is hastily made in the morning to spur creative thinking.)
58. List ten things that matter most to you (people and animals don't count).
59. List ten things you would like to do every day.
60. Paste your childhood photo into your notebook.
61. Make something out of trash.
62. Make an entry in your notebook in CAPITAL LETTERS.
63. Collect some flat natural materials(flowers, leaves) and glue it in a notebook.
64. Modify a magazine page - cut a hole, spill tea, singe, crumple, etc.
65. Think of a few color combinations that you react to. Write down, draw, indicate where you see them.
66. Describe something “secret” in your notebook. Cut the sheet with the note into several pieces and glue them on the page mixed up.
67. Write down definitions or descriptions of words or things that interest you. Use encyclopedias and dictionaries.
68. Draw the outline of the subject without looking at the paper.
69. What were you just thinking about? write it down!
70. Don't do anything :)
71. Write down ten things you could do. Make the last one on the list.
72. Draw something with dots.
73. Make three drawings, but draw at different speeds.
74. Put something small in your left pocket (or purse) and draw this object without looking at it, by touch. (You can look at paper and even recommended.) :)
75. Make a chart or graph that measures something in your life.
76. Draw the sun.
77. Write instructions for doing a simple everyday task.
78. Make prints of food (halves of fruits and vegetables, fish, etc.)
79. Find a photo and draw on it.
80. Write a letter with something unusual on something unusual.
81. Draw one object for twenty minutes.
82. Combine two things that you have not combined before.
83. Describe your day like in an encyclopedia (that is, subject and alphabetically).
84. Make a list of what you do when you want to avoid or dodge something.
85. Cut out pieces of paper of any shape from several pages of a magazine and make a collage out of them.
86. Write something in cipher.
87. Draw something with what is in the bathroom.
88. Work with a medium that is subtractive. I don’t really understand, but I can assume that it means using a method in which something is cut, cut off, torn off, peeled off ... in general, not attached, but detached. Perhaps an example would be making a traditional paper snowflake where you only cut and cut, but don't glue or add anything.
89. Describe the doors that you have met or draw them.
90. Make a postcard with some task or game.
91. Write in a journal in layers.
92. Write your own definition of any of the following actions: sit, sleep, wait. The verb itself cannot be used!
93. Write down ten of your habits.
94. Illustrate the idea of simplicity.
Leaflets 95 to 100 inclusive are empty. They are supposed to be filled in by yourself with some of your own simple and at the same time crazy ideas.
How is your typical week going? Are you tired at work, tired at home, tired between home and work? Does autumn seem to have swallowed you up? Are you almost sure that life is rushing by, and you are trying to jump into the last car? Stop. Perhaps just a few simple practices will help you stabilize in this Universe and finally look around.
Monday. Are planning
Do you feel tired already by dinner, although you have not completed even half of what was planned? Not enough time and energy for anything? It's time to learn how to plan correctly, change your attitude towards yourself and your tasks. That's how you can find free time for what really matters to you.
What tasks should be prioritised? A good indicator of what work needs to be done (beyond normal commitments) is activities that satisfy your needs for peace, food, human closeness, and spiritual growth.
Draw and color a star. Paint brighter areas that correspond to needs that you want to pay more attention to today and in the coming days. Leave less saturated areas that correspond to needs that are less important to you this week.
Then write down ideas for HOW to meet the needs in the near future. Follow your star.
Have you ever wondered how much time you could save if you didn't do everything that others want you to do? But in response to a request to do something, we say “yes” more often than we would like. And then the time we spend on these tasks is gone forever. Find out why you are in a hurry to say yes, even when you don’t want to at all.
Here's one exercise that will help reinforce every no-no: Put a string in your pocket in the morning. Each time you say “no” clearly and clearly, tie a knot in it. In the evening, summarize: if you count five knots, you can no longer do this exercise. Congratulations!
Wednesday. let go
It's time to get rid of the excess in your life: habits, things, rules, conventions and much more. Get rid of bad memories, bad habits, negative emotions, household rubbish or communication with annoying people, and life will become easier, more carefree and more enjoyable.
Whatever weighs on you, do a little "liberation ritual."
Take a blank sheet of A4 paper and write in large letters on it what you are drawn to the bottom. One word or a short sentence is enough, such as “fear”, “work anxiety”, or “anger”. Fold this sheet of paper into a “harbinger of misfortune” and let it fly away! 
Fear is part of our life. We are all afraid of something: problems at work, misunderstanding of loved ones, dismissal, serious illness. You can leave everything as it is and capitulate, handing over the reins to your fears and depriving yourself of the ability to accept independent solutions. And you can accept the challenge, penetrate the essence of fears and learn how to deal with them, and possibly overcome them.
One of the techniques that can be adopted is yawning. When we are nervous or afraid, we move faster. To calm down, you need to slow down. One yawn helps with this. This will signal the parasympathetic nervous system responsible for relaxation, that the danger has passed and you can calm down. Exercise can be performed in a state of increased stress. Try to track your feelings: write down situations when you experienced anxiety, and how your body reacted when you yawned.
What is your self-esteem? What can you say about your self-confidence? Do you have self respect? Once to feel self-confidence does not mean to become confident person. Yes, people with high self-esteem have bad days. Our perception of ourselves is shaky and very easy to break. But the good news is that the more we do to develop ourselves as a person and take better care of ourselves, the stronger the foundation on which our self-confidence and self-esteem rest.
Reward yourself from time to time - it motivates you to keep going. Define a few tasks for yourself, or take the seven tasks from this article, and then mark what you managed to accomplish. For each task, determine a reward (going to the cinema, a box of chocolates, a bouquet of flowers, a favorite dish, a massage ...).
Saturday is a good day to clear life of unnecessary rubbish and bad habits, which means to find inner order. A large number of things are not a problem. The problem is when they are stored haphazardly or there are so many of them that there is simply not enough storage space. It is not at all necessary to do a spring cleaning if you are overcome by depression at the very thought. Make three promises to yourself and keep them:
- Today I will clean up my first aid kit and throw away all expired medicines.
- Today I will throw away all expired and spoiled products.
- Today I will throw away all houseplants that have not bloomed or grown for a long time. And those that grow uncontrollably, I will give to neighbors or friends.
Sunday. Meditate
Tomorrow is Monday? It's OK. Don't think about the past and the future. Concentrate on what is happening here and now. The Buddha said, “There is no path to happiness. Being happy is the only way." Happiness is always there, just in difficult times, full of stress, we do not notice it. Mindfulness helps to cultivate this happiness in order to give it to yourself and to the whole world, on any day of the week.
I love different experiments when you challenge willpower, laziness, the usual routine of life, and even the whole society. Today at 00 hours and 00 minutes on the second of July, I decided to make adjustments in my life, and made a list of experiments for self-development and personal growth.
I will take about a month to try out most of the challenges. Because I’m sure that after 30 days it will become clear to you this or that thing, and this time is enough to develop some kind of habit. I hope that I will continue to do much of what I have tried - this is one of the main goals.
Yes, and why not? If it's fun and doesn't take too long. A good reason to end the hibernation of the last months, to break out of the inactive stupor and passive monotony. In addition, all this is related to my motto - "To live several lives in one life." Moreover, I will be glad if my articles will interest and inspire other people to conduct their experiments.
1.
Media asceticism: what will happen if you limit surfing on social networks and entertainment portals?
2.
Sports, sports, sports: running, gym, dancing, plank, anything that would be interesting and dynamic
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. Wear only dresses and skirts for 30 days: I used to do this for a whole year
5.
Every day (every other day) to do some good or socially useful deed
6.
Film yourself for a month
7. Meditate a day for half an hour
8. For the next 30 days, praise everyone who deserves it / chat every day for the next 30 days with someone new
9.
Read one book a day for a month: I'll leave this pastime for the winter
10.
Relationship work. Not a day without amenities for your man
11.
30 days without meat: without coffee... without alcohol... without swearing... well, why live like this?...
12.
Play the harmonica every day: I've been wanting to learn to play the blues for a long time.
13.
Every day to study something on astrology: I was very inspired by one Vitebsk guy who killed my skepticism in relation to this ancient belief system
14.
Silence (including online communication): I dream of spending some time in complete silence since I learned about vipassana (spiritual practice, among the features of which is 10 days of silence). I can’t presume to set an exact deadline, at least a day can be carved out here.
15.
Temper 30 days: maybe I'll hurt less later
16. 30 days without disputes and criticism: Being a freelancer, I see this task as not too difficult, but interesting.
17. Draw every day
18.
100 days to make your dreams come true: we start a thick notebook and write down every day what we have done to move towards our goal, even the smallest steps
19.
Month of travel around the hometown: I'll try to search interesting places in Vitebsk
20.
Play poker: and although I do this almost every day, I think that it will be necessary to develop a more rigid and structured game plan for such an experiment
22.
Do stretching: after all, I once sat on the twine ... I want to lift my leg to my ear again
23.
Watch classic old movies every day
24. For a month, get rid of one thing that I don’t use.
25. No complaining or whining for 30 days: is it even possible?
Most likely I will combine some challenges, for example, to read and become a vegetarian, or to temper and not argue with anyone. If I come up with some more tests for the soul and body, then the list will be replenished. I will talk about the results with articles, photos and videos. Here is a plan for self-development for the next couple of years.
Digital detox or internet diet
I'll start by limiting the "tasty" and "harmful" - social media and entertainment portals. I have carried out this execution before with varying degrees of success, but now there is a serious reason - the summer. Ambitiously I declare that I am definitely not going to spend it boring and pointless.
The initial conditions are:
1. Feed Demon (my news consolidator is very handy, I recommend): 30 minutes every day (media, poker news, travel, psychology and motivation)
2. YouTube (entertainment): Wed and Sun (in general, twice a week)
3. VK and Instagram: 15-20 minutes every day, in the evening
5. Viber and WhatsApp: no limits (no one writes to me anyway)
6. View the poster on Sunday at